Sunday, October 3, 2010

The Sunday Report: The BBC wants to help African American women find a mate



If you have time please listen to this BBC Radio report. It's about 22 minutes long and is the subject of this post. The BBC report is about the supposed difficulty college educated heterosexual African American women have finding a mate.

The mainstream media it seems is obsessed with this subject. And is it because the mainstream media is concerned about Black woman? Hell no. In my opinion they are simply gloating and promoting the idea of Black pathologies. I mean how many stories on this subject really need to be done when it's the same exact story over and over again?

In this BBC report a reporter at first talks to a Black woman, Renee, who says that she's looking for a professional Black man. In the next segment the reporter talks to a Black guy, named Andre, who says he's a convicted felon. Huh?

So why the hell is this reporter talking to a convicted felon?

The reporter continues in the next segment by talking to some White guy who runs a non-profit that helps ex-convicts. He goes on about how dysfunctional the men he attempts to help are. He even apparently is an expert on Black women as he basically calls Black women goldiggers.



Then inexplicably they set-up Renee on a blind date with the convicted felon, Andre, who has already admitted earlier in the piece that he's unemployed and is currently selling drugs. WTF?

After the supposed blind date the reporter talks with both Renee and Andre. Renee basically calls this guy out for what he is, a dealer. And Andre talks about how much he enjoyed the date and that he hopes that Renee will see him again. But he then, after being prompted to do so by the reporter, goes on to give his thoughts on, "hood sistas". He says that usually after talking with a, "hood sista", for the first time that in his experience they are ready for sex. Why miss an opportunity to put Black women down, right?

Renee of course says that Andre is not for her. That though she understands all of the problems Black men face that she would not want to date Andre as their lifestyles are too different. Wow, big surprise. Did they really have to set this blind date up to figure this out?

Then the piece really goes no where. They talk to a couple of Black women. Oh, and they throw in an incorrect statistic about the number of Black men who marry non-Black women. The reporter says it's 14% of Black married men when actually the figure is about 6%.



Finally at the end of the piece they set Renee up with a professional Black guy, an attorney. Isn't that the kind of guy she said she wanted in the first place?

After the short date Renee says she likes him but she doubts his interest. And she seems right as he says that he always feels as if something better is just around the corner.

Seems to me the BBC reporter went out of her way to prove a point; that educated Black women have a hard time finding a suitable mate. This report might have actually been worthwhile had the reporter gathered several professional Black men and women in a social setting to see what would happen.

But I guess that might expose the fact that there really is no Black pathology involved in this. The truth of the matter is having a hard time finding a mate is just part of being human in a modern world.




Photos by: Cauquil Claude

12 comments:

? said...

Did the BBC talk about black women and men in the UK? Apparently half of African-Caribbean men are interracially married in Britain.

In the US 22 percent of African American men who married in 2008, married interracially. Those numbers are only likely to grow as the country gets more diverse.

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Val said...

@Beauty and Health Editor

OMG! I think your comment might be the best comment ever! Love the sarcasm!

"I either meet these cissy types, who cry about everything, or I meet these guys who want to beat up everybody."

Ha!

Yeah the BBC setting people up on blind dates is crazy. Whatever happened to journalistic integrity and boundaries?

Val said...

@?

"3.7% of married Black American women and 8.4% of married Black American men had a non-Black spouse. 6.6% of married Black men and 2.8% of married Black women had a White spouse. 0.1% of married Black women were married to Asian American men, representing the least prevalent marital combination."

Those are the figures on interracial marriage from 2008. It's 8.4% not 22%. That means that about 92 out of every 100 married Black men is married to a Black woman.

Here's the link:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States#Census_Bureau_statistics

Not sure about the figures in the UK.

? said...

Val,

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/04/us/04interracial.html?ref=todayspaper

Val said...

@?

That's interesting. The Census Bureau statistics say 8.4% and Pew says 22%? I don't get why there is a discrepancy in the figures? Do you?

? said...

Val,

If I'm reading this right, I think what they are saying is that 22 percent of black men who married in the year 2008, married interracially. Because later they go on to say that 13 percent of black men who were married in general in 2008, had a non-black spouse.

Val said...

@?

Okay, thanks. Well that's interesting.

Don said...

I haven't listened to the audio, but I will say that it's beyond my understanding how women are supposedly having trouble finding mates.

Now, I can believe that it takes some time, but men are out there seeking women that are looking to be sought.

These types of studies are misleading if you ask me. I cannot give the statistics or anything of the nature, but I witness too many relationships to ever believe in a drought.

Women even marry incarcerated men, and vice verse.

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Val said...

@Don

"These types of studies are misleading if you ask me."

I agree. As I said I think most of this stuff is to make Black people seem inferior.

Val said...

@Beauty and Health Editor

"Flawed, that is what they are, in my opinion."

That's my opinion too but there are a lot of Black women that really buy into this stuff and they become self-fulfilling prophecies.

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Soldier Of Love

I've lost the use of my heart
But I'm still alive
Still looking for the life
The endless pool on the other side
It's a wild wild west
I'm doing my best

I'm at the borderline of my faith,
I'm at the hinterland of my devotion
In the frontline of this battle of mine
But I'm still alive

I'm a soldier of love.
Every day and night
I'm soldier of love
All the days of my life

I've been torn up inside (oh!)
I've been left behind (oh!)
So I ride
I have the will to survive

In the wild wild west,
Trying my hardest
Doing my best
To stay alive

I am love's soldier!

I wait for the sound
(oooh oohhh)

I know that love will come (that love will come)
Turn it all around

I'm a soldier of love (soldier of love)
Every day and night
I'm a soldier of love
All the days of my life

I am lost
But I don't doubt (oh!)
So I ride
I have the will to survive

In the wild wild west,
Trying my hardest
Doing my best
To stay alive

I am love's soldier!

I wait for the sound

I know that love will come
I know that love will come
Turn it all around

I'm a soldier of love
I'm a soldier

Still waiting for love to come
Turn it all around
(4x)

I'm a soldier of love
I'm a soldier

Still waiting for love to come
Turn it all around
(3x)

Still waiting for love to come

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Solange!

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Alicia says...

Rest in Peace Mitrice

Rest in Peace Mitrice
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